How To Get Back With Your Ex Husband - Some Tips

Understand that I’m writing from the ex husband’s point of view and as such I would hope that you realize that I may hold the key to how to get your ex husband back. I’m going to give you a few tips that my ex wife should have followed when she wanted to get back with me. I think you’ll agree these tips are not hard to follow or unrealistic.

* Stop arguing with him. Maybe he is wrong about what you had for lunch last week. Is your marriage being restored worth being right?

*Listen to him. Men rarely have more than few issues with their partners, maybe only one or two, and we are very blunt in expressing ourselves once the relationship is over. Even though he may not have raised complaints during the marriage listen to everything he’s saying now. He’s giving you the bottom line.

*If you betrayed his trust then accept the fact that he doesn’t trust you now. Trust is earned. Expect to have to earn it.

*Find out what makes him feel loved. (Hint: It’s probably not sex.) Everybody feels love in a different way. Your ex needs to feel loved in the way that makes him feel loved, not how you want to show love to him. Find out what that is and do it.

*Do not under any circumstances make promises to him. Actions speak volumes. Don’t promise to be there at a certain time. Say when you’ll be there and show up. Don’t promise to stop nagging him, just stop nagging him. He’s had enough of your promises, and needs to see actions.

*Focus on fixing yourself. Your ex husband is definitely at fault in this break up as much as you, but if you’re the one trying to fix it then you must be willing to focus on your issues alone. Trust me, he has had a lot of time to think about what went wrong and knows what he needs to change. Let him get there on his own.

*Don’t push and don’t smother. Everyone heals at their own speed. You can not force your ex husband to take you back. You have to display the behaviour that he needs to see to want you back and he may need quite a long while before he accepts it. Be prepared to wait it out.

*Never give up, but know when to give up. As long as he’s talking to you and sharing his feelings with you, there’s still a chance he’ll take you back, but once he starts another relationship, you need to stop trying to reconcile. This is the point where you need to decide if you’re going to get on with your life or wait it out. That is personal decision that only you can make, but know this: I have witnessed many relationships where someone moved on only to realize later they should have waited it out.

I hope that you can get your ex husband back, but things don’t always work out, even when you have the best advice you can get. If you truly know that you will go on loving your ex then I think you need to keep trying. But you do need to know that whatever you were doing in the past did not work. It’s time for a new strategy.