Winning Back Your Ex

magicofmakingup1 Winning Back Your ExWhen I write about how to get your ex husband back, I’m little reluctant to use the phrase “winning your ex back”, because this is not some sort of game but the phrase does fit if you look at it from the point of view that you can’t win back your ex without some sort of strategy.

One of the things I’ve talked about in the past was the importance of not stalking him. The flip side of that, of course, is staying just involved enough with him that he’s always thinking about you a little. One way to do that is to call him for advice on something. The trick is to ask for his help without asking him to actually come and help you.

Let’s say you’ve moved into a new place. Call your ex husband and ask him how to hang new drapes straight. This shows him multiple things. One, is that you respect his knowledge enough to ask him for advice. Secondly, it show him that you’re capable of doing things for yourself and thus are not as needy as he might have thought. This one is important because many men shy from women they feel are too dependent on them. And lastly it shows him that you’re moving forward with your life but apparently no men are in your life you feel worthy of asking except him.

He may offer to come over and do it for you. If he does decline the first offer, but leave yourself sounding a little unsure of your ability. He may bite and insist he comes over and helps. If that happens let him help. It doesn’t appear that it was your idea for him to come over. And it’s probably somewhat of a ploy on his part to spy on you and see how you’re doing. This part is critical: let him come do the job and leave when he’s ready. This is absolutely not the time to be clinging to him.

In my experience with my ex wife, the times I thought we had the best chance of getting back together was when she appeared to have her life together and didn’t need me to do everything for her. The more it looked like we were just “friends” the more I was ready to take her back. When she did ask for help and it didn’t appear she was just using me to get the job done, I felt like she respected me more then when she blatantly asked me to do something for her.

And one last thing: ladies if you’re going to use this tactic of asking your ex for advice, by all means take his advice. Nothing bruises a man’s ego more than being made to feel as though his opinion or knowledge isn’t respected. One of the reasons I never got back with my ex is that she constantly asked me for financial advice, didn’t take it, and then expected me to bail her out when she needed money to pay her bills.

If I had break it down to one reason I didn’t take her back it was because I felt she didn’t respect me as a person. Please don’t make that same mistake with your ex husband.

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